Tristan is Right and Here's Why
I want to take this opportunity to demonstrate some solidarity towards the points Tristan had made in his reply to my initial article and thank him for elaborating on some topics that I had not for the sake of brevity. I’m also going to bust his chops a little bit, but before I do, I want to stress how serious this topic is for us; the fact that he went out of his way to make clarifying comments just shows how there is absolutely no room for ambiguity. The salvation of young men who read these articles might depend on the advice we offer in regards to this topic; it is necessary that we treat this topic with the gravitas it rightfully deserves. It is for that reason that I am honored to have him come forward and do me a real solid.
When he talks about being the man in a marriage, he is absolutely correct on every point. I consider this to be a failure of exactness on my part since the written medium can’t be used to portray intonation. While I said “Don’t worry about being the man”, I really meant “Don’t WORRY about being ‘the man’ (according to our societal standards)–just BE a man”. The “powers that be”–or what I call them to wait for another article to go down that rabbit hole–have done a lot to disturb the balance of power between men and women for the exact reasons Tristan had described. There is no progress in “progressiveness”. Likewise, there is no mutual respect in “equality”.
To elaborate further what I had meant in spirit: one of my more formative experiences into adulthood was as a freshman in college out in the middle of what was called a “field problem”. A this time, I was an ROTC cadet out in the middle of the piney woods of East Texas conducting a simulated movement to contact towards an objective. During this exercise, one of the instructors got fed up, threw down his clipboard and shouted “Cadet White, just make a #%$&ing decision!” For some reason, that’s always stuck to me. Likewise, men are called upon to make a lot of decisions. Some of them require much thought and consideration.
However, simply choosing to not make a decision is not an option. In terms of a marriage, you are expected to make decisions. You will also be sometimes expected to explain or defend your decision, but stick to it nonetheless. As one wise man taught me, it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Like I said, you will naturally assert yourself as a man by simply being there, being involved, and making decisions. Unfortunately with the number of fatherless children that exist in our society, it appears we all collectively (as a nation, etc…) have trouble with the first one more than others.
Everything Else In Between
On Compatibility: Yes, Tristan is also fundamentally correct on this point. I understand that my relationship with my wife is an exception rather than the rule. Exceptions do exist, but the rule is in place for good reason.
On Old Newlyweds: Can’t agree more with Tristan on this. In fact, the tone of my article was essentially “learn from my mistakes and set yourself up for success so you don’t have to go through what I did”.
On MGTOW/PUA: I think that it’s nothing short of diabolical that this garbage is marketed to those who are the most broken and in need of competent guidance–spiritual, emotional, or otherwise. Aside from the fact that MGTOW/PUA completely allows men to avoid taking accountability for their actions, the values ascribed to MGTOW/PUA are the exact opposite of what young men need to form successful, meaningful relationships on any level. Instead, they set up young men for failure by teaching them to embrace emptiness and hatred so they don’t feel as shocked when they not only discover that their personal relationships lack substance, but when they see substance in everyone else’s relationships. Avoid it at all costs.
The Roasting of Tristan Green
And now business has been taken care of, here’s the moment you all have been waiting for.
Let’s suppose that old newlyweds are cringe as Tristan had suggested. You know what else is cringe? Not only being at this cringe wedding, taking a cringe seat, sitting through the cringe ceremony, and staying for cringe dinner and cringe drinks, but also signing the cringe wedding certificate as a cringe witness.
He is also an astronomically massive degree of butthurt that he can’t possibly look this good in a suit…
Also, it’s very easy for Tristan to call people old because he just got out of diapers last week. Sure, he says he’s in his early twenties, but can we really prove it? The fact that he’s married doesn’t prove anything. Marriages in our state are technically valid for applicants 15 and younger with an order from a circuit court.
That would also explain why his headers don’t match on his last article. Seems like something’s going on…
